Marriage Guidance in St Ives Cambridgeshire serves couples in the Cambs area for marital or relationship problems. Relationships run into difficulties, and having a marriage guidance counsellor local in the st ives area to help you is very comforting. Marriage guidance will empower couples to think differently about their situation. Working in the st ives cambridgeshire area means marriage guidance knows the people and area well.
Local st ives customs and traditions gives marriage guidance counsellor stephen meakin a great foundation from which to make a difference for its customers. St ives cambs is a thriving area, but marital problems can happen to any couple anywhere as relationships are put to the test in today's demanding world.
Every relationship is different, so marriage guidance caters for all scenarios. It doesn't matter if you live in st ives or not, as long as you live in the cambridgeshire area then you qualify for the marriage guidance marital problems service. Marriage counselling is the same as marriage guidance or relationship guidance or counselling.
What matters is that your marriage counsellor can actually help you at an affordable price. Marriage guidance counsellor stephen meakin has studied relationships for many years, so has a lot of knowledge to help you unravel your marital problems. Have confidence that your marital problems can resolved by marriage guidance and its expert relationship counselling. Marriage counselling will help your relationship succeed promising a bright future for you as a couple.
Local st ives customs and traditions gives marriage guidance counsellor stephen meakin a great foundation from which to make a difference for its customers. St ives cambs is a thriving area, but marital problems can happen to any couple anywhere as relationships are put to the test in today's demanding world.
Every relationship is different, so marriage guidance caters for all scenarios. It doesn't matter if you live in st ives or not, as long as you live in the cambridgeshire area then you qualify for the marriage guidance marital problems service. Marriage counselling is the same as marriage guidance or relationship guidance or counselling.
What matters is that your marriage counsellor can actually help you at an affordable price. Marriage guidance counsellor stephen meakin has studied relationships for many years, so has a lot of knowledge to help you unravel your marital problems. Have confidence that your marital problems can resolved by marriage guidance and its expert relationship counselling. Marriage counselling will help your relationship succeed promising a bright future for you as a couple.
Contact
Please fill out the form below and I will get back to you within 24 hours. Thank you.
About Me
I am a family man who lives in St Ives (Cambs) with my wife and two teenage children. I appreciate and respect the difficulties couples go through, so discretion and your privacy will be held with the utmost regard. Trust is earned and not an entitlement. All relationships are precious, and at no point will anything I say be untoward or condescending. I wish you all a very bright and fulfilling future.
I am a family man who lives in St Ives (Cambs) with my wife and two teenage children. I appreciate and respect the difficulties couples go through, so discretion and your privacy will be held with the utmost regard. Trust is earned and not an entitlement. All relationships are precious, and at no point will anything I say be untoward or condescending. I wish you all a very bright and fulfilling future.
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A Struggling Marriage Can Reach Incredible Heights
Struggling marriages can not only be saved, but can hit incredible heights never deemed possible before. That is no exaggeration. The Love that was first felt when you got married can be surpassed beyond your wildest dreams. If both partners 'want' the marriage to succeed, with a little time, cooperation, perseverance and understanding, and by putting into practice a few vitally important Principles, your relationship can indeed succeed and reach far greater levels of happiness and fulfillment.
Understanding key Principles that concentrate on the 'now', looking forwards rather than backwards, is where the magic lies. Healing and growth can happen quite quickly and a new vision for you both appear. How is that possible? Firstly, let me just briefly explain who I am and what I do.
I am not considered a professional as the normal term is meant. I do not have a degree from a standard University. My qualifications however, come from the greatest University of them all, that of Life. I have attained a powerful set of insights that are transformative. I have studied Principles for many years, and it is these that give rise to the lightbulb moments that lead to wisdom. I have also studied my own relationships with the critical eye of a scientist, but with the love, sensitivity and tenderness of a samaritan. I do not follow the standard patterns of thinking, which is what makes my approach a little different. Therefore, spare a few minutes to read the outlines of my methods below as you may find them thought-provoking and most useful.
Dismantling the Walls that surround the Heart
From childhood into adulthood, most of us learn to handle suffering from our relationships by erecting a wall around our Hearts. Believing it will protect us from further pain, alas, this actually works against us. As we get older, that wall steadily thickens and hardens, and begins to subtly cover the loving person that we are. Over time, our childlike youthfulness gets lost and this can result in the tendency to be more snappy, angry and frustrated. There is a simple rule that needs to be understood. The thicker and higher the wall is surrounding our Hearts, the harder we become and the more fiery our reactions can be.
Most people will accept that there is a protective wall to some degree surrounding their Hearts. But what most don't realise is that the wall acts like a filter that subtly influences our thoughts, feelings and actions, but not in a healthy way. Have you even been so enraged and wondered how you were able to react to such a degree? If you look closely, you will find that underlying hardness pushing you to the very limits of self-control. Any goodness can get completely drowned out.
Even so, we know that any hardness that is there is not a true reflection of who we really are. Deep inside, we know that we are good people and there is much Love within us. Therefore, it is that deep Love that needs releasing completely as individuals before it can be felt unconditionally and in its fullest sense as a couple.
Healing, growth and strength comes from having the courage to actually bring the walls around the Heart down. Some may be horrified at that notion, judging it will leave you exposed to more hurt. But not so. What actually happens is the Love that resides at the centre of your Being, namely your Heart, will then be able to express itself freely and without fear. It is this Love which then becomes your 'protectorate'. The more Love that is released, the more the softening of any hardness in your current relationships will be, not just with your partner, but your family and friends too.
Practice Goodness
The way to bring down the walls around your Heart is quite straightforward in principle. There are important Rules to this Game of Life, and the more one understands them, the more power one has to master them. As with all things that are mastered, one becomes happy and free as a result, as one is no longer bound by those bonds of compulsive thoughts, feelings and actions.
For a moment, consider suffering the negative emotion of jealousy. This emotion can be painfully brutal with its accusations and obsessive thinking. So, imagine what it must be like to overcome jealousy, how 'free' one would feel and be. The same incredible 'freedom' and joy will be felt once the walls around both of your Hearts come down, but on a scale far far greater.
As most of us suffer negative emotions, to a lesser or greater degree, the way to overcome them is not to wrestle with or suppress them. On the contrary, it is to replace them with something far superior. There is a Principle that is immensely powerful and beneficial to practice every day. That Principle is Goodness or to be 'good'. At no point is there any need to delve into your's or your partner's past to analyse any failures and weaknesses, for that will just stir up a hornets nest of friction.
The way forward is for you both to simply 'practice' goodness throughout the day, every day. Not just with each other, but with all of your relationships and the situations you find yourself in. This practice lifts our attention away from looking down to looking up. It becomes easier to look for the good in every situation rather than being drawn towards the bad. You both start to build a momentum of goodness within your lives.
Even though goodness is simple to do in theory, it is not so in reality. We face challenges daily that can result in a negative impact. But how often do we do 'good' as a result? We may not physically react, but it's likely we will emotionally and mentally. Stewing over something said is a classic example. Another is worrying about family and friends, and both take their toll. A new and more beneficial approach is required.
The practice of goodness will set in motion effects that will benefit you mentally, emotionally and physically, both individually and as a couple. You will be strengthened and less susceptible to negative influences and they will increasingly pass you by. The great thing is, you will see the results for yourself quite quickly, proving that there is indeed a better way of living. Have you ever noticed how good you feel after you have helped someone? Top sports people, actors, musicians, artists etc 'practice' their craft repeatedly. So, why should our most beloved relationships be any different? If we want to be good at them, we need to practice being 'good'.
This is one of the exercises that will be important for you both to achieve a truly fulfilling and lasting relationship.
Mind, Heart and Body Exercise
Even though practicing goodness is easy enough to understand, it's worth identifying a few things first to help you distinguish between the three levels upon which you should practice it. Namely;
Mentally with your thoughts
Emotionally with your feelings and desires
Physically with your actions
I will show you a simple technique that will help to sharpen your attention so that you can recognise when opportunities arise on those three levels of daily living. For example, an invading thought about someone can easily grab your attention and stir thoughts of negativity. These often lead onto negative feelings, and in some cases, negative actions. The build up of negative thoughts, feelings and actions increases the hardness around our Hearts, which in turn, makes it even easier to be negative in the future. It really is a lose - lose situation.
Practicing the Principle of Goodness directs your attention in the opposite direction, but more importantly, your Life also. As a couple, the practice of goodness is vitally important. If walls around both of your Hearts do not come down, then you cannot hit the heights of union and deep Love, which is the goal. It really is as simple as that.
There is another exercise that is important to enhance the connections between a couple, of which I call Hearthugs. They are straightforward to do, but again, there are deeper levels to be experienced as the hardness around your Hearts decrease.
Hearthugs
Couples know how to hug, and Hearthugs are but an extension of that simple embrace. So what is so special about Hearthugs? The simple fact is, Hearthugs bring the points made above into a practical cohesion. In other words, practice the above exercises, and you will see a significant change happen when the two of you embrace (hug).
The more you both allow your walls to come down, and the more you bring your mind, emotions and actions under the influence of Goodness, the more profound will the Hearthugs become. This is a very important point. They will no longer be just hugs as they are generally experienced by most couples, which are lovely I might add. You will begin to experience very deep feelings of unity and connectivity.
I will explain more about this and also the simple techniques required in our first meeting.
What I will not do
I have very little practical interest in the rights and wrongs of your relationship, unless one or both of you have had an affair. An affair takes a special kind of person to forgive completely, and in most cases, the relationship will fail. Even so, there are exceptions.
The reason why I see no need to delve into the rights and wrongs of your past is because that is NOT where the solution lies. Such an attempt will simply result in lots of negative comments being exchanged, which does very little to help you both heal and grow. Most people suffer from negative thoughts, feelings and actions to a lesser or greater degree. Drumming up negative points about each other will be easy in a relationship that is faltering, so why do it? If most people suffer from negatives of a sort, then it would be hypocritical of us to condemn them and each other. As most negatives have their roots in selfishness, then it makes sense to deal with selfishness as a whole and be done with them for good.
What happens now?
If what has been said above makes sense and you would like to book an appointment to set you both on your way, then please fill out the contact form below and I will get back to you within 24 hours.
Sessions take no longer than an hour and will be in the privacy of your own home or at a quiet location that you are both comfortable with. Following on from the first session, I recommend we meet a week later to discuss your progress and for me to answer any questions. After that, it will be up to you depending on your requirements. The results could be transforming enough that you may not need another session. Even so, my door will always be open for you both.
Thank you
Cost per session
1 Hour - £65.00
Struggling marriages can not only be saved, but can hit incredible heights never deemed possible before. That is no exaggeration. The Love that was first felt when you got married can be surpassed beyond your wildest dreams. If both partners 'want' the marriage to succeed, with a little time, cooperation, perseverance and understanding, and by putting into practice a few vitally important Principles, your relationship can indeed succeed and reach far greater levels of happiness and fulfillment.
Understanding key Principles that concentrate on the 'now', looking forwards rather than backwards, is where the magic lies. Healing and growth can happen quite quickly and a new vision for you both appear. How is that possible? Firstly, let me just briefly explain who I am and what I do.
I am not considered a professional as the normal term is meant. I do not have a degree from a standard University. My qualifications however, come from the greatest University of them all, that of Life. I have attained a powerful set of insights that are transformative. I have studied Principles for many years, and it is these that give rise to the lightbulb moments that lead to wisdom. I have also studied my own relationships with the critical eye of a scientist, but with the love, sensitivity and tenderness of a samaritan. I do not follow the standard patterns of thinking, which is what makes my approach a little different. Therefore, spare a few minutes to read the outlines of my methods below as you may find them thought-provoking and most useful.
Dismantling the Walls that surround the Heart
From childhood into adulthood, most of us learn to handle suffering from our relationships by erecting a wall around our Hearts. Believing it will protect us from further pain, alas, this actually works against us. As we get older, that wall steadily thickens and hardens, and begins to subtly cover the loving person that we are. Over time, our childlike youthfulness gets lost and this can result in the tendency to be more snappy, angry and frustrated. There is a simple rule that needs to be understood. The thicker and higher the wall is surrounding our Hearts, the harder we become and the more fiery our reactions can be.
Most people will accept that there is a protective wall to some degree surrounding their Hearts. But what most don't realise is that the wall acts like a filter that subtly influences our thoughts, feelings and actions, but not in a healthy way. Have you even been so enraged and wondered how you were able to react to such a degree? If you look closely, you will find that underlying hardness pushing you to the very limits of self-control. Any goodness can get completely drowned out.
Even so, we know that any hardness that is there is not a true reflection of who we really are. Deep inside, we know that we are good people and there is much Love within us. Therefore, it is that deep Love that needs releasing completely as individuals before it can be felt unconditionally and in its fullest sense as a couple.
Healing, growth and strength comes from having the courage to actually bring the walls around the Heart down. Some may be horrified at that notion, judging it will leave you exposed to more hurt. But not so. What actually happens is the Love that resides at the centre of your Being, namely your Heart, will then be able to express itself freely and without fear. It is this Love which then becomes your 'protectorate'. The more Love that is released, the more the softening of any hardness in your current relationships will be, not just with your partner, but your family and friends too.
Practice Goodness
The way to bring down the walls around your Heart is quite straightforward in principle. There are important Rules to this Game of Life, and the more one understands them, the more power one has to master them. As with all things that are mastered, one becomes happy and free as a result, as one is no longer bound by those bonds of compulsive thoughts, feelings and actions.
For a moment, consider suffering the negative emotion of jealousy. This emotion can be painfully brutal with its accusations and obsessive thinking. So, imagine what it must be like to overcome jealousy, how 'free' one would feel and be. The same incredible 'freedom' and joy will be felt once the walls around both of your Hearts come down, but on a scale far far greater.
As most of us suffer negative emotions, to a lesser or greater degree, the way to overcome them is not to wrestle with or suppress them. On the contrary, it is to replace them with something far superior. There is a Principle that is immensely powerful and beneficial to practice every day. That Principle is Goodness or to be 'good'. At no point is there any need to delve into your's or your partner's past to analyse any failures and weaknesses, for that will just stir up a hornets nest of friction.
The way forward is for you both to simply 'practice' goodness throughout the day, every day. Not just with each other, but with all of your relationships and the situations you find yourself in. This practice lifts our attention away from looking down to looking up. It becomes easier to look for the good in every situation rather than being drawn towards the bad. You both start to build a momentum of goodness within your lives.
Even though goodness is simple to do in theory, it is not so in reality. We face challenges daily that can result in a negative impact. But how often do we do 'good' as a result? We may not physically react, but it's likely we will emotionally and mentally. Stewing over something said is a classic example. Another is worrying about family and friends, and both take their toll. A new and more beneficial approach is required.
The practice of goodness will set in motion effects that will benefit you mentally, emotionally and physically, both individually and as a couple. You will be strengthened and less susceptible to negative influences and they will increasingly pass you by. The great thing is, you will see the results for yourself quite quickly, proving that there is indeed a better way of living. Have you ever noticed how good you feel after you have helped someone? Top sports people, actors, musicians, artists etc 'practice' their craft repeatedly. So, why should our most beloved relationships be any different? If we want to be good at them, we need to practice being 'good'.
This is one of the exercises that will be important for you both to achieve a truly fulfilling and lasting relationship.
Mind, Heart and Body Exercise
Even though practicing goodness is easy enough to understand, it's worth identifying a few things first to help you distinguish between the three levels upon which you should practice it. Namely;
Mentally with your thoughts
Emotionally with your feelings and desires
Physically with your actions
I will show you a simple technique that will help to sharpen your attention so that you can recognise when opportunities arise on those three levels of daily living. For example, an invading thought about someone can easily grab your attention and stir thoughts of negativity. These often lead onto negative feelings, and in some cases, negative actions. The build up of negative thoughts, feelings and actions increases the hardness around our Hearts, which in turn, makes it even easier to be negative in the future. It really is a lose - lose situation.
Practicing the Principle of Goodness directs your attention in the opposite direction, but more importantly, your Life also. As a couple, the practice of goodness is vitally important. If walls around both of your Hearts do not come down, then you cannot hit the heights of union and deep Love, which is the goal. It really is as simple as that.
There is another exercise that is important to enhance the connections between a couple, of which I call Hearthugs. They are straightforward to do, but again, there are deeper levels to be experienced as the hardness around your Hearts decrease.
Hearthugs
Couples know how to hug, and Hearthugs are but an extension of that simple embrace. So what is so special about Hearthugs? The simple fact is, Hearthugs bring the points made above into a practical cohesion. In other words, practice the above exercises, and you will see a significant change happen when the two of you embrace (hug).
The more you both allow your walls to come down, and the more you bring your mind, emotions and actions under the influence of Goodness, the more profound will the Hearthugs become. This is a very important point. They will no longer be just hugs as they are generally experienced by most couples, which are lovely I might add. You will begin to experience very deep feelings of unity and connectivity.
I will explain more about this and also the simple techniques required in our first meeting.
What I will not do
I have very little practical interest in the rights and wrongs of your relationship, unless one or both of you have had an affair. An affair takes a special kind of person to forgive completely, and in most cases, the relationship will fail. Even so, there are exceptions.
The reason why I see no need to delve into the rights and wrongs of your past is because that is NOT where the solution lies. Such an attempt will simply result in lots of negative comments being exchanged, which does very little to help you both heal and grow. Most people suffer from negative thoughts, feelings and actions to a lesser or greater degree. Drumming up negative points about each other will be easy in a relationship that is faltering, so why do it? If most people suffer from negatives of a sort, then it would be hypocritical of us to condemn them and each other. As most negatives have their roots in selfishness, then it makes sense to deal with selfishness as a whole and be done with them for good.
What happens now?
If what has been said above makes sense and you would like to book an appointment to set you both on your way, then please fill out the contact form below and I will get back to you within 24 hours.
Sessions take no longer than an hour and will be in the privacy of your own home or at a quiet location that you are both comfortable with. Following on from the first session, I recommend we meet a week later to discuss your progress and for me to answer any questions. After that, it will be up to you depending on your requirements. The results could be transforming enough that you may not need another session. Even so, my door will always be open for you both.
Thank you
Cost per session
1 Hour - £65.00
Serving St Ives, Huntingdon
and villages throughout Cambridgeshire
and villages throughout Cambridgeshire